By Matt O’Grady
Happiness is a goal that almost everyone in this world hopes to achieve. It may seem like a simple concept, but what does “happiness” actually mean? If we go by the dictionary definition from Merriam-Webster, happiness is “a state of well-being and contentment.” In the English of Shakespeare’s time, happiness was used as a noun, defined as “good fortune.” In today’s world, we tend to see happiness as an elusive ending to our complex life stories, something that will symbolize completeness in our lives once it has been achieved.
According to a recent survey, only 33% of Americans were able to say that they are happy in their daily lives. There is no concrete path to happiness and likely there never will be, but perhaps if we go back to thinking of it as a compilation of good fortunes, we’ll have built stepping stones to increase happiness as we go through life. The most rewarding way to identify each good fortune in your life is by practicing gratitude. When you focus on the best things in your life, you’ll find that your overall happiness has grown and that you feel less burdened by the world.
How Do You Practice Gratitude?
Those who have been practicing gratitude for decades are able to take time each day to acknowledge their appreciations, but when you are just starting out you must take gradual steps before reaching that clarity.
Find balance between your regular responsibilities and practice gratitude by carving out a few moments in your day to really think about its best aspects. When you put your attention specifically on the things you are grateful for, such as the shining sun after a storm, your pumping heart that keeps everything going, or the smile on your daughter’s face, you’ll encourage happiness to flow into your thoughts. These positive thoughts fill up the space that bad feelings or intrusive thoughts tend to occupy. For some, the simple practice of thinking is not enough to create a feeling of happiness. While there are no certain remedies to bring absolute happiness into your life, you can get active with your gratitude practice with these tips.
Address Your Physical Spaces
When your home or workspace is in a state of disarray, your mind will be as well. These are spaces that you have to look at, live in, and interact with every day. In order for your mind to be healthy, they must be in tip-top shape as well. Dedicate a weekend day or take some time off of work to sort through your belongings and get rid of anything you don’t need. Try donating to a local shelter, that way you know that your unwanted things have gone to someone who will be grateful for them. Once you’ve purged your space of everything that is extra, try reorganizing the space. Sometimes a shake-up of what you’re accustomed to will launch you into a new mindset as well.
Write Down Your Gratefulness
For some, the most effective way to measure progress is by doing a visual action. Find a journal that speaks to you, and dedicate it to daily gratitude writings. You don’t have to be a gratitude author to write about what you are grateful for. Simply put pen to paper, and write down what you are grateful for that day. Your small list could include the people in your life, the food you ate that day, a heartwarming interaction you witnessed, and so much more. Make the things you write down detailed, so that you recognize each small thing. After practicing this regularly, you will be more likely to notice and remember what allows you to feel thankful. Keeping everything in a journal also creates a space you can look back at and recall all of the good that you’ve experienced in a week or a month.
Find Advice From A Gratitude Coach
Practicing gratitude on your own can be very effective, but sometimes you need an outside voice to motivate you or help you appreciate everything in your life. To do this, you can schedule personal sessions with a gratitude coach, who will lead you in practices that help to organize your mind and give you tools to use in your daily life. You can also listen to gratitude podcasts by life coaches. This is very easy to incorporate into your daily life, as you can listen to podcasts as you drive to work, clean the house, or cook a meal. Listening to a Gratitude Coach can help you put things in perspective and get a more solid grasp on all of the good in your life.
How Does Practicing Gratitude Increase Your Happiness?
When you practice gratitude every day, you are essentially rewiring your brain to focus on happiness. As you engage in activities like re-organizing your home or listening to a gratitude podcast, your brain releases dopamine, a neurological chemical that makes you feel happy. This process happens quickly as your gratitude practices make their way from your actions, through your eyes, and into the working gears of your brain. Outside of the feeling of being happy, practicing gratitude can have the following effects that can significantly impact the happiness in your life.
Falling Asleep Becomes Easier: According to a 2013 study in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research, people who showed more gratitude during their waking hours were able to fall asleep easily at night. This relaxed state for gratitude-minded people likely comes from having fewer negative and more pleasant thoughts that fill their mind as they drift off to sleep.